My top ten reasons why you should be glad you're single.

10. You can date, talk to and kiss anyone you want.

9. You can look any way you want to, any time you want to.

8. You look younger. Research has found single people look younger and are usually in better shape.

7. You can have sex with a different partner every night of the week, if you want to.

6. You don't have to deal with any relationship drama.

5. Being single means you are constantly meeting new people and going new places.

4. Your possibilities are endless.

3. You can take over the entire bed.

2. Your hand or your vibrator never disappoints.

1. The possibility that you could marry George Clooney or Cameron Diaz is still a possibility.

Personally, I don't really like to go out on New Years Eve. I, like many people, believe it is "amateur" night. It seems most people feel that they HAVE to go out and have fun on the last night of year. I have never understood this and have also never really had a great time on New Years Eve. O.k., maybe once...or twice. I think trying to "force" a fun New Years Eve never works.

But, there are a few alternatives to just sitting at home alone. If you don't want to ring in the New Year all by your lonesome, then you are going to HAVE to be proactive!

The first step:

Start calling all of your friends, in fact, even call those friends that you've lost touch with..or a friend that you may have had a falling out with in the past. This is the perfect time of year to reconnect and say hi. Who knows they might end up inviting you to join them for New Years or if they don't have plans, it's the perfect opportunity to get together and see each other.

Now...for part two:

O.K. you've called some single friends and none of you have anything to do on New Years Eve....

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

1. Have a small dinner party...where each of your friends brings along another single guy or girl. Everyone can each bring a dish and a beverage to share with the group.

2. Try something new....that you and your friends would never normally do. Maybe it's the opera, the ballet, a magic club, mystery dinner theatre.

3. A white elephant party, where everyone brings the worst gift they received for Christmas to exchange for someone else's bad gift.

4. Have a wine tasting and dessert tasting. Each person can bring their favorite wine or dessert to share.

There are many ways to enjoy New Years Eve....the best way is to be safe and don't over do it.

And if you are alone this New Years Eve, here are my favorite things to do.

Treat yourself to an extravagant dinner at home, rent your favorite movies and sip champagne. I usually like a quiet New Years Eve, I like to reflect on the past year and make exciting plans for the new year ahead. I go to bed early and wake up the first day of the new year..refreshed and ready and not hung over.

Tuesday, 18 December 2007 20:14

Do you have a dating strategy?

Have you ever wondered why you aren't meeting or dating many new people?

Well, when we were in our 20's we didn't really need a strategy. But, then we were also not looking to settle down or find love. We were out having fun, being adventurous and meeting new people everyday.

Then into our 30's we don't go out to bars as much anymore and clubs..well, I never liked clubs. So you go to dinner with friends or the occasional party. Some of your friends are in long-term relationships and some are married. They still know a few single people..but, the list is getting shorter. Meanwhile, you are still single. Now might be the time to figure out a dating strategy.

This means that you are going to be pro-active in reaching your long-term goal....to be in a committed long term relationship and hopefully marriage. But, first you need dates. Or candidates..as I like to call them.

So, what do you do......where do you begin?

Well, first, I'll just give a few examples of strategies that I know some people are currently using to find dates, which is the first step to finding a long term relationship.

Where do you work?

I know someone who owns restaurants and they have been using their place of business for years as their personal dating service or "strategy" to finding love. And if you work in a field where you are expected to be friendly and approachable, then it makes it much easier to approach someone and strike up an innocent friendly conversation. I know another person who is a hairdresser, he chats with clients all day and gets plenty of dates that way too.

So, deciding to be a bit friendlier in your work environment is a good place to start. NOTE: I am not talking about hitting on a coworker or customer. But, by simply smiling, striking up a conversation and (if it comes up) mentioning that you are single, you are now opening a new door to more possibilities. But, I realize there are also many of you who do not come in contact with a bevy of new people at work and some of you might even work from home. This is why, you especially, need to have a dating strategy.

I have put together a list of a few simple ways to create a strategy for dating and meeting new people.

*Join a group

By joining a group where you know no one and you enjoy the activity, you are guaranteed to meet new people and expand your circle, by expanding your circle, you are now opening yet another door to more possibilities.

*Try online dating

I know people who have tried it and gotten married, I have known people who have tried it and had no luck at all. But, what I do say about online dating is this; it provides you with the ability to meet people that you might not ever have met in your day-to-day life. The more people you meet and go out with....the better you will be at the art of making "dating conversation".

*Find activities you love doing

If there is something that you used to love to do...but, haven't done in awhile, go do it. Either go by yourself (which I recommend) or find a friend or neighbor to go with you. But, remember....try to make conversation with others....not just the person you have with you. As much as I don't like to go places by myself....it has ALWAYS forced me to talk to new people and help me meet people that I might not talk to if I have a friend along. I think going by yourself to an event or to do an activity is the best way to force you to talk to strangers. And I also think other people are more inclined to approach you when you are by yourself. Be brave! Try it!

*Volunteer

When you volunteer to help at a charity event, it not only makes you feel great...it makes other people approach you at the event. They will usually be asking questions, need help with whatever activity is going on, and in general I feel most people tend to let their guard down at charity events. People get into the spirit of helping others and they tend to forget they are talking to strangers...because; after-all you are all there for the same cause. That is a conversation starter and often times is a bonding experience between otherwise, perfect strangers.

The goal is to expand your circle. By finding a dating strategy that works for you and putting that strategy into action you will have more dates, the more dates you have, the better your chance at finding love.

If you are the type of person that really is determined to increase your chance at finding love, you also might want to consider hiring a personal matchmaker. A matchmaker's goal is to find love for you. They do the searching based on what you are looking for in a mate. They search through their personal data base of eligible singles, as well as approach anyone where ever they are. If they spot someone who appears to fit your criteria they will approach them and ask if they are single and tell them they have someone they would like to introduce them to. Most people are extremely flattered and impressed to be approached by a matchmaker and are very willing to meet the matchmakers client.

What will be your dating strategy for the New Year?